While upholstery cleaning in Boulder, CO 80301, and cleaning carpet and hard floors, we’ve raised a daughter to adulthood and have two pre-adolescent boys. Kids do not usually notice the work that is going on around them in your household. Hey– they really live in their own little bubbles! It’s up to us as parents to wake them up and make them a part of the real world inside of our homes. And even help us out a little...
Rule #1: Don't Have Too Many Rules.
Rather than a bunch of rules, be creative with fun names like, "No play, no pay." Post them on the fridge, and then enforce them with a combination of positive reinforcement and natural consequences.Here are two of my favorites:"When you put your towels in the hamper, I'll wash them." That way, they won’t have a bare rack when they get out of the shower!"I feel your pain in not wanting to clean your cat's litter box, but you have to do it." And I’m NOT doing it– hey, they begged for the cat!Rule #2: Do as I Do, Not as I Say...
As the time-honored saying goes, it isn't what you say, it's what you do that will stick with your kids.If your papers, books, DVDs and CDs are neatly filed and stacked, your child just might think twice before he leaves his stuff on the floor. So do the right thing, Mom, whether the kids are around or not. After all, you may as well lead the way and be a good example.Rule #3: Limit the amount of Chore Time.
An age-appropriate chore should take a child no more than 15- to 30 minutes a day, max.Rule #4: Work Together.
Resist the temptation to assign too many chores that send your children off on their own. From a kid's point of view, cleaning his bedroom after school each day is downright banishment. None of us likes to be sent to prison!Better still: Create a family cleanup time each day or once a week. Misery loves company. This makes it understood that the dirty jobs have to be done.Rule #5: Don't Nitpick.
Don't be too picky about your child's results; he is, after all, a child. I’m overjoyed if my ten year old’s socks and underwear just get in the clothes hamper. (Okay, you can press the perfection point a bit harder with your teens.)And whatever you do, don't let your son or daughter see you redoing a job. When a child feels successful at something, she's more likely to continue doing it. Doing a redo of her work will eliminate any pride she might have of doing the job. Why should she continue doing it if you’ll just do it again anyway?Rule #6: Focus on the Big Picture.
While one goal of housekeeping with kids is to help you take a load off, the more important goal is to teach your children the life skills they'll need to have a clean, organized, efficient home someday on their own.Rule #7: Ensure Success.
Take the time to show your child how to succeed at a given task.For example, tell your teen about the wonders of bleach on white cotton polos and about its devastating effect on black Lycra running shorts before sending him off to the laundry room.Rule #8: Break Down Big Tasks into Small Steps.
Don't tell your preschooler to clean up his room. That's too daunting. Say, "Let's put all the dinosaurs in the red tub." Then, when that task is complete, continue with "Now let's put our crayons into the cup." Oh, and don’t be tempted to start playing with the toys you are supposed to be helping to put away– my wife hates it when I do this!You might not even get the room totally clean on the first attempt. The goal is to make kids feel good about what they did. Make the job small enough to do well.Rule #9: Make Helping Easy for Them.
Whenever possible, set up your home with housecleaning with kids in mind. Stash a stool in the laundry room so even your littlest family member can help load the washer.Place breakfast dishes on a bottom shelf within reach of your 4-year-old so she can set the table herself. Start ‘em young or you’ll have a college age daughter who believes Facebook is more important than quickly helping out in the kitchen (and yes, that is speaking from experience)!Rule #10: Be Patient.
Make "good" good enough. They'll have no satisfaction in a job well done, an extremely important concept most of us want to instill in our kids before they head off on their own.Unless, of course, it's an older child trying to get away with sloppy work. In that case, you'll need to tell her the work just isn't up to par, and that she'll need to do it again, and again, if necessary, until she gets it (almost) perfect.Rule #11: Praise Often.
Be effusive in your praise. Remember the last aced test proudly thrust in your hands after school? Our little ones clearly delight in our joy at the work of their hands.
And who of us does not like to be praised. Even after upholstery cleaning in Boulder, CO 80301 for twenty years, I LOVE hearing that I did a great job on your sofa or chair. Praise will make your child’s day… and yours too!